when i got my father’s day card from megan,

my first impression was like… wow, its much much bigger than joelle’s mother’s day card!! kekeke… 

this evening, rushed back home after work, as usual to pick megan from her childcare… and this evening, she came to me from her childcare with a huge card on her hands…

and she was like, “daddy, you see…”

of course i see… cuz its such a huge A3 size card! and the huge card says i’m Grrrreat!

and of course, the first person i wanna show the card to is joelle… cuz i wanna show her how big mine card is as compared to hers… haha…

thot, when doing this, megan may not exactly know what it is for but after seeing what megan’s teacher wrote on the comm-book “… megan also did her father’s day craft independently…” i can actually visualise megan putting effort to color and sticking the color papers on the bear bear…

let me enjoy this moment as its afterall, my first father’s day card… :P

oh ya, joelle’s reaction? she says “haha, megan’s father day message to you is a bear, whole body full of plaster, just like the daddy…”

the m&m sisters…

namely megan and melody, the m&m sisters…

hadn’t got time to blog recently ever since my last post, that was like, 2 weeks ago… oh well, it definitely isn't easy being parents of two…

was chatting with joelle when the kids were sleeping, and joelle asked if we are great parents… i told her that we may not be the best parents but we’re definitely doing our best…

i meant, there are parents who have grandparents (sometimes both sides) to help them taking care of their babies, and hence allowing them to even have time for movies… and guess what? complaining they are tired…

as i was saying, we’re not the best parents… but our point of view is, we bring them here, and we’ll provide for them… after all, they’re just too cute to resist…

 

megan had proven herself to be a great helper these days…

1. she helped to bring tissue for melody when she puke milk

2. she helped to cradle melody

3. and the best of all, she helped to bottle feed melody!!!

amazing right? a little 2yo toddler helping out… but the fact is:

1. megan is all too happy to be asked to take tissue paper for melody… cuz after that, it seems like she is granted permission to do that ‘lets see how fast i can pull all the tissue paper out from the box’… :S

2. she was found cradling melody in rocket speed and was stopped just in time before melody’s head kanna the metal pole of her mobile cradle… :S

3. the bottle feeding? oh well, once melody was fed and put on her pinky chair… and i was talking to joelle at the kitchen and suddenly we saw megan gotten the empty milk bottle and started pushing it to melody’s mouth as thou feeding her… and melody happily opened her mouth lor… :S

being parent of 2 is really challenging and fun, you have to experience it to know it. afterall, they wouldn’t be babies forever, treasure the moment while you can before it all become just memories… but, its really really very tiring… :P

i felt like a rechargeable battery

no matter how i recharge, it wouldn’t go back to 100%… just like all rechargeable batteries, you’ll never get the same energy level as the cell gets old…

it was an hectic last week when melody was hospitalised, right after melody is discharged from the hospital, megan and i put up at mil’s place to get the girls separated until both have recovered.

and that means, i would need to feed, shower and wash megan and my own clothings for the next 3 days… and the nite ain’t getting any better as megan woke up in the middle of the nite crying… maybe not used to sleeping in different place…

and to make the matter worst, work isn’t smooth either… office power trip lah, office iso audit lah, office this and that… haiz…

i am not IRONMAN… :P

 

anyway, thats how things have to be… for being parenthood… and for being parents of two… now i really appreciate those tiny little helps by relatives to bring megan to playground, to carry melody when she cries, to fetch megan from school, to help feed melody… those 5 minutes of relieve enable us to regroup and recharge, thou not 100%, but a little more to carry on…

 

most of the time when i took a cab home from work, the cabbie uncle will mention its a loong way home and very expensive, and sometimes would ask why rush home on a friday evening? i would reply the cabbie uncle cuz need to fetch daughter from childcare… the cabbie uncle will like sound surprised that i have a daughter… and normally they will turn behind and look at me when i mentioned i have 2 daughters…

so i look too young to have 2 daughters? i dun think so… in fact, i think i aged faster even since i’m a father… i guess, it’s because everyone else are having children at an older age, when they’re more financially, emotionally, or whateverly ready to have kids…

but i must say, the longer you wait, the harder it gets… put aside its harder to get pregnant… its even harder to raise them up… cuz its just that tiring…

 

sometimes, joelle and me would wonder, how others seems to get by so easily… then we realised, its much easier to see others getting by then to get it by themselves… its always the same saying “看人家养很容易”...

 

okie dokie, enuff ramblings… nobody say it would be easy anyway… but behind those tiredness, frustrations, headaches, sleepless nites, we’re rewarded by the intangible happiness brought to us by megan and melody… which must be captured…

 

 

for melody, who sometimes twit a little smile on her cutie face for her tiring father…

for megan, who keep saying “daddy, i love you” sweetly for her sour-faced father…

all these really meant a lot to me… and i dun look that tired already… at least not in this shot…

 

and again, for megan, who couldn’t stop making her energy-deprived father to have additional energy to laugh out loudly when she did this…

wearing melody’s mitten…

Melody’s full month celebration, but then…

before i go into the ‘but then’…

we’re celebrating melody’s full month a week earlier. and this time round, we’re giving melody a full shave, as what we’re told that megan got curly hair because we didn’t give her a full shave back then… and how i wish to prove them wrong… :P

anyway, a straighter hair is still much more manageable then a curly one, so, no harm trying thou… and before she got it all shaved, here’s melody with her ‘baby hair’…

and here we go… and what do you understand by full shave? in case you dun know, full shave means also shave the eyebrows… that, i also dun know… :P

surprisingly, melody didn’t cry or struggle during the shaving… but i guess she would if she know the result would be like this…

oh, come on, its not done by david gan, whata you expect?

but if i know it would become like this, i would not want her a full shave… haiz…

but she is still the sweetie cutie melody… and dun she look like her sister when she wore her cap…

then its off to my parents’ place to 拜祖先...

and of course, the showy stunt by my dad… oooh, thats a lot of zeros… time for daddy to consider buying a ipad! of course no lah, is all going to melody’s saving account lah!!

appreciate the kind gesture from my dad, but dun it look a little nicer with an ang bao?

anyway, megan got the same ‘no-ang-bao-long’ treatment when its her full month back then… and speaking of megan, despite having no attention for her, she is busy playing with all the ‘ma sak’ at my parents’ place by herself…

and hey, look what we found in megan bunch of ‘ma sak’…

ok lah, its ‘man-made-coincidence’ lah…

and next, its back to our place for a little celebration. and i really meant ‘little’ celebration, cuz this time, we didn’t invite all of our friends as we wanna make it a ‘little’ celebration… else, it wouldn’t be called a ‘little’ celebration, if it ain’t little…

and we never forget those frds back in office, whom kept ‘pestering’ us to bring melody to ‘parade’ when she is full month… we would like to, but for some reasons, or one reason in particular, which will be explained later in the BUT THEN part of this post, we didn’t bring melody to our offices… we do, however, prepare some nicey nice cupcakes for our frds thou…

the creator of these amazing cupcakes is jacelyn (joelle’s colleague) and these cupcakes dun just look nice, they taste nice… or at least, thats the feedback we got, and we didn’t even got time to taste them as we were rushing off once we delivered the cupcakes… rushing where? here comes the BUT THEN…

but then… as melody was having flu and cough for the past few days, thats why we didn’t wanna bring her down to ‘parade’ the offices… and the thing is, melody gotten her flu and cough from megan, who in turn, got it from her classmate back in her childcare center… so we got 2 sick children on hand…

haiz, it almost seems like a monthly thingy for megan to get flu from her classmates… i guess we should seriously consider giving megan, and if possible, melody as well, a flu jab…

anyways, melody was too young to be infected with the flu bug. and so, even when melody was brought to her PD, he didn’t do anything to melody but just some nose drop thingy… which turned out to be a disaster as melody’s condition never improve… as edmund burke puts it, “the only thing necessary for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing”…

and of course, melody’s condition didn’t improve and it gotten so worst that she is having difficulties feeding and her breathing is so noisy as if she is living in a fish tank, breathing underwater…

and during her full month celebration, we finally decided to bring melody down to the KK hospital, A&E… and right after that, melody was admitted to hospital…

poor poor melody, she was put thru a series of traumatizing painful treatments that include the gas-ing section where she was placed in a box like thingy and having gassy medication and oxygen, blasting at her…

 

this isn’t too bad for her, as it helped to open her airways and hence breathing better during the gas-ing session… but thats not all… she went thru the blood test ordeal, where she was poked twice on her heels… both heels… as its difficult to get blood sample from her… and then, another poke on her tiny finger as the damn blood test center later said, not enuff blood… whata hell you guys expect? 3 gallon of blood from a tiny baby? kaoz…

ok, nevermind, take what you want… afterall, we need to know if she is infected with the brofourwhatthefucksis virus… and hence, melody was put in a 1 bedded room to isolate her from the other patients until all her tests shown negative result… and hence, we get to have a 1 bedded room while paying for a 6 bedded one…

and thats not the real ordeal for melody… the real ordeal is the nose suction session, where the nurses put a long suction tube right thru melody’s tiny nostrils down to her throat, sucking out the mucus that is causing her feeding and breathing difficulties… and this was done like 6 to 8 times per day, mostly at nites as melody’s blockage gets worsen at nite…

i remembered this happened once for megan when she gotten flu when she was very young… after experiencing it, i got so traumatized that once i got home, i got so weaken and could only lay on bed for a few hours… imagine i could jump out from an airplane with a parachute without jelly legs but not when i’m experiencing this… its really traumatizing for me…

and imagine, having to experience this with melody throughout her hospital stay… as joelle is still in her confinement, i had to take over the duty to accompany melody during her hospital stay… and i thot i’m braver this time to experience this nose suction thingy for melody… first nite i’m still taking it well, almost…

but on the second nite, i got so emotionally drained after her 9pm nose suction, i carried melody, looking at her, and i cried… i just sob uncontrollably with melody in my arms that i didn’t hear the nurse coming into the room for melody’s temperature… imagine the nurse’s shock when she saw a full grown man sobbing like a baby… but then, her next few words really send warmth and comfort to my heart… the angel said “are you alright? you take a rest and let me help you carry your baby.”

anyway, the next day, we managed to get a little ‘time off’ from the hospital to send the cupcakes to our frds in office… and then rush back to the hospital to accompany melody… and to our relieve, melody’s report is negative, meaning she is not infected with the brofourwhatthefucksis virus, and she is able to discharge after staying for 3 days 2 nites…

my oh my, we really got a ton of rock off our heart… melody is finally off from her ordeal, and is able to go home! but, our work don’t just stop here…

first of all, melody is still not fully recovered from her flu and cough, and we need to continue taking care of her, monitor closely her progress…

secondly, megan is still coughing and and having runny nose… and so, we drawn up quarantine plans to isolate the sisters when either of them are sick…

and so, here i am, blogging this post from my in-laws’ place… while joelle blogged her post at home…

with this, i conclude my post with some thots…

its really not easy being parents, especially now being parents with 2 children, and one can see how much it can weaken your soul when your children get sick, especially when they’re very very young… but no matter what, every drama has its chapters, and you really need to go thru every chapters to finally get to the happy ever after part, thou our story is still like chapter 2 out of the many chapters… but nevertheless, it made us stronger and more bonded with every experiences we’re going thru… we’re be strong…

and thanks for reading this mass, its really a mouthful post but, i just have so much to pour out… and do click on the ads, as the hospital bills are expected to be coming in next month… :P

WHY THE BANK KEEP CALLING ME!!

First of all, its Megan, who gotten flu from school again… it almost seems like it’s going to be a monthly affair to visit the doc… so now, we’re considering whether to give Megan the flu jab… anyway, we better start building up Megan’s immunity by giving her the VitC pills… and as advised by the doc, dun just buy VitC pills, buy those with Zinc included, cuz that’s the ooze in the booze…



And then… its Joelle’s turn… her stitches from her c-sect surgery got opened… guess she had been moving around too much… and she carried Megan somemore… but not her fault lah, cuz Megan sometimes get cranky and want Joelle, especially when she is sick… so, back to doc Adrian who stitched Joelle back…


And just last nite, Megan woke up at 4am and wanted me to carry her… and when I did, I realized she is running a fever… I was like, dam, runny nose and cough not yet recover, now comes the fever? But thankfully, she’s ok after taking her paracetamol… a great parent’s weapon against children’s fever attacks…


Hence, Megan is giving her school a pass today, and stayed home. Just when I thot that’s all… now Melody’s turn… I called back home during lunch and only to found out Joelle and her Confinement Lady are returning home with Melody from the PD! Melody’s nose blockage problem is getting worst and she’s having problem feeding and sleeping… Melody was given some kind of nose drop thingy to help clearing up her airway…


Gosh… just Thursday and so much happenings over the weekday… and work isn’t helping either… so the sianz and WHY THE BANK KEEP CALLING ME!! I’M NOT INTERESTED IN WHATEVER YOU GOING TO OFFER!!





I really need to cool down…